Questions I frequently help people answer:
“Why am I so attracted to certain types of people?”
“Why do I lose interest once someone likes me?”
“Why do relationships start with so much chemistry but then lose their spark?”
“Why do I keep finding myself attracted to people who aren't good for me?”
Koby Frances, PhD, NY
For more than two decades, I've helped adults make sense of confusing attractions, recurring relationship patterns, dating frustrations, and difficult relationship decisions. Many people arrive feeling stuck, discouraged, or overwhelmed by questions that seem impossible to answer. With the right framework, these experiences often become far more understandable—and far easier to navigate.
For some people, questions about attraction and relationships carry additional weight because they touch on personal values, family relationships, and a sense of social belonging.
some people, questions about attraction and relationships carry additional weight because they intersect with deeply held values, family expectations, and the communities to which they belong.
Whether you're struggling with these questions yourself or trying to better understand attraction, relationships, and identity, the articles and resources on this site may provide additional clarity and guidance.
If you are looking for more clarity about your own dating and relationship experiences, you’re welcome to reach out to schedule a consultation or ask questions about working together.