“Why do i keep falling for the same TYPES OF PEOPLE?”
Koby Frances, PhD, NY Licensed Psychologist
Many thoughtful people come to therapy asking important questions about themselves and their relationships:
“Why do I repeatedly fall for people who need rescuing?”
“Why do I tend to quickly idealize and fall-hard for certain types of people?”
“Why do I feel so anxious and obsessive when dating?”
“Why don’t I feel as strongly when meeting nice people who may be more compatible?”
One of the things I have repeatedly observed in helping clients work through questions like these is that people often feel enormous relief once they begin seeing the understandable emotional and psychological patterns beneath their attraction and relationship questions — that their feelings are not random, meaningless, or signs that something is fundamentally wrong with them.
Often, once these patterns begin to make sense, people stop feeling trapped by confusion, obsession, comparison, or panic. For many people, this process leads to a clearer understanding of themselves, their attraction patterns and their relationship needs.
If you are looking for more clarity about your own dating and relationship experiences, you’re welcome to reach out to schedule a consultation or ask questions about working together.