Questions I frequently help people explore:
“Why am I so attracted to certain types of people?”
“Why do I fall so quickly in and out of love?”
“Why do relationships start with so much chemistry but then lose their spark?”
“Why don't I seem to be as drawn to kind, emotionally available people?”
Koby Frances, PhD, NY
I've spent more than two decades helping adults make sense of confusing attractions, recurring relationship patterns, dating frustrations, and difficult relationship decisions. Many people arrive feeling stuck, discouraged, or overwhelmed by questions that seem impossible to answer. With the right framework, these experiences often become far more understandable—and far easier to navigate.
Many of the individuals I work with are also navigating these questions within the context of religious commitments, personal values, family expectations, and cultural backgrounds. These influences often play an important role in how people understand attraction, relationships, identity, and major life decisions.
Whether you're exploring your own experiences or simply trying to better understand attraction, relationships, and identity, you may find the articles and resources on this site helpful.
If you are looking for more clarity about your own dating and relationship experiences, you’re welcome to reach out to schedule a consultation or ask questions about working together.