“Why do i keep falling for the same kinds of relationships.”
Many thoughtful people come to therapy asking important questions about themselves and their relationships:
“Why do I repeatedly fall for people who need rescuing?”
“Why do I tend to quickly idealize and fall-hard for certain types of people?”
“Why do I feel so anxious and obsessive when dating?”
“Why don’t I feel as strongly when meeting nice people who may be more compatible.”
As a clinical psychologist in private practice with two decades of experience, I have found that many clients feel significant relief when they realize that their attraction and relationship experiences often have understandable emotional and psychological patterns beneath them — that their feelings are not random, meaningless, or signs that something is fundamentally wrong with them.
Often, once these patterns begin to make sense, people stop feeling trapped by confusion, obsession, comparison, or panic and become better able to recognize the difference between intense attraction, emotional longing, and genuine relationship compatibility.
For many people, simply understanding these dynamics already creates a greater sense of clarity, steadiness and hope about their future relationships.
If you are looking for more clarity about your own dating and relationship experiences, you’re welcome to reach out to schedule a consultation or ask questions about working together.